My wife asked me what I wanted this year, and I bought a vintage Fenwick rod I said I wanted. From my point of view, the goal of it is to go on "fun trips" together. I've observed that I'm more interested in traveling to new places if I'm toting a fly rod. : ) I think it's a "catalyst" for communing with nature, which strangely, I wouldn't do as much of otherwise. She can think of more things to do while I am fishing that I can think of to do while she is "birding"... But I don't mind seeing the Blue Heron's that reside at my local spot; occasionally, I fish right along side of them as we stalk the same prey. But I don't eat mine... ; )